ended up getting rid of their profile (Bien-Aime, 2017).
These stories about women who feel exploited or
coerced into sex from the sugar daddies that they meet
on sugar dating sites are not the stories that get
popularized in the media. The more popular stories are
those that show the benefits of sugar dating and how
college women have been able to pay for their tuition
without having to get a job while in school (Wexler,
2017). Due to this absence of bad press on the realities
of sugar dating, there continues to be a flood of young
women seeking these types of relationships with older
men, without being aware of what these men will ask of
them. Due to this, many women are vulnerable to be
taken advantage of due to their naivety. This is in no
way the victim’s fault, and society should be more open
to sharing stories about what can go wrong and how to
help sex workers engage with clients more safely.
However, this is not the reality and instead sex workers
are often blamed, or not believed, about the abuse that
they may suffer at the hands of their clients. In 2013, a
young woman in her mid-twenties was raped by an older
man she met through SeekingArrangement. During their
second “date,” he pinned her down and forced her to
have sex with him. The woman went to the hospital after
she left and had a rape-kit done and filed a report with
the police (Chung, 2017). Even though this woman did
everything that society claims a rape victim is supposed
to do (i.e. report immediately and keep your story
straight), she was still blamed for her attack because she
was a sex worker. The case was dropped by police
because they deemed there wasn’t enough evidence to
convict her wealthy-high status, rapist. Worse, the press
stated that the woman was only “crying rape” in order
to try and get money from her attacker (Jacobs, 2013).
This stereotype about women crying rape in order to get
money is sadly a common way for society, especially
the media, to claim that rate of false rape accusations is
high when it really isn’t. This, accompanied with the
high rates of victim blaming and the high
socioeconomic status of sugar-baby clients gives little
room for victims of sexual violence at the hands of these
men to speak up and share their stories.
The reality is that sugar dating is very similar to
prostitution, but there are no legislation to help monitor
this part of the sex industry. There are no protections to
help sugar-babies who may become victim to sexual
violence at the hands of their sugar daddies. This leaves
sex workers open to predators who are looking to add to
their sex trafficking or prostitution ring. Having this
type of business conducted online is a good way to help
weed out predators, but there is only so much a person
can do to try and protect themselves, when they really
shouldn’t have to. Sex workers deserve just as much
trust and compassion as any other individual, but sadly
sex workers are believed and blamed for their
victimization even more so by society than the general
population. This only causes more stigmatization and
less reporting, and in turn no legislation to help protect
this population of individuals.
Discussion
Sugar dating, and all it encompasses, has drawn
attention from psychologists and sociologists who
wonder just how close sugar dating is to prostitution and
other forms of sex work. Although there are similarities,
mainly that of sexual favors in exchange for monetary
gifts, this is not the main issue to be discussed. Research
does not need to show how sugar dating is similar to
prostitution. Instead, research should be wielded to help
support sex workers themselves and make it a safer
industry.
Future research needs to be done on this topic. The
information here is simplified and general in regards to
sugar dating. Research should be done to understand
further the consequences, both good and bad, that sugar
dating has on society. This research is necessary in order
to protect sex workers who engage in sugar dating as a
part of their career, as well as to protect individuals who
go into sugar dating inexperienced and at risk for
exploitation. Also, further research on gender
differences in sugar dating should be done to understand
how the patriarchy and misogynistic tendencies affect
how women view themselves as sex objects and why
this may lead them into sex work, as opposed to another
career.
Overall, sugar dating is just one facet of a large sex
work industry. Sex work has jobs worldwide, and sugar
dating is a career that comes with a higher salary than a
lot of other common jobs. The promise of paid tuition,
health insurance, and other expenses has drawn in
millions of individuals to sugar dating. Research on this
phenomenon is important so that society can understand
the effects and what changes should be made to help sex
workers if need be, but researchers have the duty to help
de-stigmatize sex work as well
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